enneagram changed my lifeI had another post planned for today but I found I kept referencing the Enneagram in it. So, before we get to that topic, let’s take a minute to talk about my favourite personal growth tool! YAY! I’m sure those who know me are just surprised I’ve waited this long to write about post about the Enneagram. The rest of you are probably a little wary about something termed the Enneagram.

Full disclosure: I may be known to talk about the Enneagram to EVERYONE I KNOW, lend out books, share printouts, put charts on my fridge, offer advice on finding your type and generally not shutting up about it.

Here is why. . . . other than the word of God, it has been one of the most impactful tools in giving me self-awareness and growth in every single aspect of my life.

So what is? (other than tragically named). It is an ancient model of human personality types that goes to the heart level.

THE TYPES

1 THE REFORMER

The Rational, Idealistic Type: Principled, Purposeful, Self-Controlled, and Perfectionistic

2 THE HELPER

The Caring, Interpersonal Type: Demonstrative, Generous, People-Pleasing, and Possessive

3 THE ACHIEVER

The Success-Oriented, Pragmatic Type: Adaptive, Excelling, Driven, and Image-Conscious

4 THE INDIVIDUALIST

The Sensitive, Withdrawn Type: Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, and Temperamental

5 THE INVESTIGATOR

The Intense, Cerebral Type: Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, and Isolated

6 THE LOYALIST

The Committed, Security-Oriented Type: Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, and Suspicious

7 THE ENTHUSIAST

The Busy, Fun-Loving Type: Spontaneous, Versatile, Distractible, and Scattered

8 THE CHALLENGER

The Powerful, Dominating Type: Self-Confident, Decisive, Willful, and Confrontational

9 THE PEACEMAKER

The Easygoing, Self-Effacing Type: Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, and Complacent

Source: The Enneagram Institute

Here are few highlights about what makes the Enneagram insightful, unique and valuable . . .

MOTIVES

It isn’t based on our behaviours or social-habits rather it’s based on our motives and the underlying assumptions we operate under. The Enneagram outlines our basic fears and basic desires and our underlying belief about our self-worth. I know, it is heavy stuff. This has been one of the biggest insights into my own life. When I start feeling stressed or there is tension in my home I can stop and think and what I am trying to get out this situation. What is my motive, what am I afraid of? What am I trying to achieve?

THE WINGS

There are nine of types but each type has two others that also impact it. For instance, if you are a Type 1 (Perfectionist) you also have traits of the types beside you (your wings). You will also be a bit of a Type 9 (Peacemaker) and a bit of the Type 2 (Helper).

THE LEVELS OF DEVELOPMENT

The Enneagram also speaks to our humanism and each type has a range weaknesses but also strengths (called Levels of Development).  One one hand it feels harsh to have your mess laid out before you – as highlighted in your weakest level. But it also outright encouraging to be affirmed in your gifts – as seen in your healthy levels.

THE ARROWS

Often we go about life unaware of how we respond to stress until someone calls us on it. The Enneagram reveals your default habits of how you react to stress and to security.  You move to one type when you are stressed and another when you are in a place of security. For example, when the Type 2 (Helper) is stressed, they move to Type 8 (Challenger) and take on the unhealthy traits of the 8 and act controlling and aggressive. When a Type 2 is secure they take on the healthy traits of a Type 4 (Investigator) and become more emotionally-honest and self-nurturing.

THE FAITH ROAD

Richard Rohr and Andreas Ebert have written a book called The Enneagram: A Christian Perspective. For each type, the book outlines our root sin, our fruit of the spirit, our invitation to others, and the qualities of Christ that are reflected by this type.  As Lee Kramer describes it, the Enneagram can be used to show us how we hide from God. I know God knows all my sins, but when I see them on paper, the ones I struggle with every day in various ways – I felt exposed and ready to repent and move away from this routine of hiding under ‘not so bad’ behaviour.

These are the basics. There is even more to learn about the Enneagram as you go along.

It has changed my life.

The Enneagram has changed how I act as a mom, wife, friend, blogger, woman, Daughter of Christ, sister.

It has helped me to catch myself in times of tension and stress.  I can start to face these hurdles head on with a clearer head of what is happening and how I need to address the situation. It has helped me identify the times I’m faking it til I make it. If I had a metaphor it would be old me with a make-shift raft drowning in a stress ocean and I’d be clinging to drift-wood. Now I’m building a stronger boat in the first place. It has changed my marriage and my parenting in liberating ways.

It has helped me to step into those strengths I have rather than get in a cycle of trying to maintain my weaknesses and strengths at a midline. As a Type 9 (Peacemaker) I have a the constant temptation to ‘belittle myself’. I can reflect on how this has impacted my life. I can also be aware of those innocuous ways it regularly happens with how I perceive and utilize my gifts and passions. It reaches into how I do online work (the fact I am still online!), be in community, be a friend and how I approach my hobbies and free time.

The Enneagram has also allowed me to view my loved ones in a whole new light. When they find their type my eyes are open too. I can better see how to love them, affirm them, and communicate with them.

Finally, the fruit of the spirit for the Type 9 is ‘action’, this has become a theme word I need in my life because it is what my life needs the most. The Enneagram knew that.

How to find your type.

There are a lot of tests online, look for a free one to NARROW IT DOWN. Then read all you can about each type you possibly could be. When I found my type, reading it made me feel ashamed and set free in a weird and moving way. I recommend reading until you find your type. Rent books from the library, borrow mine, listen to youtube videos or podcasts. Then email me and tell me what you have found!

Where to learn more about the Enneagram.

*includes affilliate links

Wisdom of the Enneagram book

The Enneagram: A Christian Perspective book

This document condenses Rohr and Ebert’s book and gives a summary of each type. Though it’s not a substitute – the book is quite eye opening and thorough.

The Enneagram Made Easy book

The Enneagram Institute

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